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Put him away!!! : 5/13/2009

He's the worst kind of predator...he's marginally good looking, he is a glutton for flattery, he's insecure, he is manipulative. Ugh...what a jerk. He ruined lives. Disgusting...

very sad story : 5/13/2009

A married 35 year old man with his own young child -- provides drugs and has sex with 16 year olds. It is as if Peter never grew up, still thinks he is in high school .. A tragedy for everyone - but yes Peter should be in jail.

parent of teanagers

Justice is served : 5/13/2009

How anyone can defend this depraved behaviour is beyond me. Coaches and teachers have privileged positions of authority in our kids lives...they should be held to higher standards of conduct. This verdict sends a strong message that our community will not tolerate such wanton abuse of this privilege...more time would be appropriate for such damage done.

Sad Dad

: 5/14/2009

Sorry Sad Dad, but the community does tolerate it in a way, because lots of child sexual abuse that occurs people never find out about, or they find out about years later. It's more common than anyone would imagine. Check the Megan's Law website. On the East Side, there's a registered sex offender on every block. It will take you over an hour just to look at every photo for the Santa Barbara area. I was quite shocked to see the manager of my local grocery store on the website.

Good God : 5/14/2009

Lynch him! He's a terrorist! I'm so unhappy with my life that I need to pass mega-judgement on this man. My God! They had consensual sex, how horrible. Step off your righteous throne for a second and maybe think about compassion and/or love. Yes, so he made a mistake in judgement. Were lives ruined? No. Was anyone hurt who will not be able to recover? No. So relax a bit and try to see the bigger picture. The guy needs help, not hard time. And three strikes over this?! Wow, that's pretty much inquisitional. Uptight puritan America etc....

no one of importance

Previous poster : 5/14/2009

Statutory rape laws are there for a reason. It's because minors can be taken advantage of. They don't have the mental capacity to take care of themselves like adults do. The coach was in a position of power and influence and used it to have sex with the girl. That is a crime, as it should be. If you think the situation is ok, you shouldn't be left alone with minors!

: 5/14/2009

It goes both ways! On his part he is older, should know better and find someone his own age. She is young and naive but she could of said NO. When I was 16 I knew the difference between right and wrong. I think this situation is being blown out of proportion!! If she was 18 years old and he was 37 no one would be making a big deal!

SB GURL

Rule of the Jungle... : 5/14/2009

By social standards, yeah he could have made better choices no question about that. Biologically it happens everyday and like SB GURL points out, it wouldn't be a problem given a couple more years. So this guy is going to jail based on a time factor. Seems pretty lame, right there with the Janet Jackson nipple-gate scandal. The girl's dad should have kicked his ass and been done with it. Peter knew what he was getting into, he doesn't need help. I wouldn't be too far off to say many men would jump on the same chance if it were "OK". That's the way it is, sorry. It's not socially acceptable, is that criminal? Puritanical indeed.

Reality Check

Sex Offender for Life : 5/14/2009

Wow, this guy's looking at ten years in prison and will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life. I don't think someone like this should be thrown in the same group as child molesters. I remember what I was doing with a 16 year old girlfriend back when I was 19. It's scary to think someone would have labeled me a "sex offender" or "child molester" for having had that and other relationships. What he did was wrong, sure, but c'mon, we allow pubescent-aged women to terminate pregnancies without parental notification. But a 16 year old girl gets it on with an older guy and now we believe she's incapable of making a decision? This guy needs counseling not 10 years in prison and a lifetime felony record. Too harsh. Way, way too harsh. People need to catch up to the 21st century.

Loud Whispers

: 5/14/2009

The point is that he was in a position of power and influence in her life. He was a hired TEACHER (coach). There is a big difference in the development of brains of 16 year olds and 18 year olds, so it does matter that she was only 16 and not 18. In our country we determine that someone is not mature enough to drink until age 21. That's because brains of homo sapiens take a long time to mature. Has everyone read the yearly statistics on teenage pregnancy? The majority of teenage pregnancies are the result of intercourse with an adult male. If adult males left the female minors alone, the world would be a better place. For those adult men who think they are entitled to teenage girls, go find a closet by yourself instead.

This is a country of laws : 5/14/2009

First - he didn't just have sex with her. He gave her drugs and alcohol, as well as many other teenagers on the boys and girls tennis teams. He took three girls to a tennis tournament in LA and ended up buying them alcohol and took them to Disneyland (unknown to their parents) where he facilitated their drinking at the park and he got handsy with the girl who he would then manipulate sex with a few weeks later. This guy is bad news. A parents nightmare. Forget your puritan insults - this guy is a predator - instead of 6 year olds he preyed on 16-year-olds. The law must draw a line at some age - the line was drawn at 18. Regardless of you Peter Jeschke supports who want him to bed any 16 year old he can manipulate into the rack, the law says this action is illegal. This isn't a case of an 18 year old boy having sex with his 17 year old girlfriend - that type of case is actually just a misdemeanor and wouldn't/isn't prosecuted by the DA's office because of the mitigating factors of the nature of the relationship. Jeschke is a world of difference. He was a teacher (coach) for goodness sake - wake up people - the idiodic things you are typing. Lets just throw out law and order - lets encourage men to have sex with any age of girl he wants. If she was 15 would you still encourage him to do her? How about if she was 14? How about 13? Why yes at 16 but not at 13 - she is probably through puberty far enough to perform the act. WHAT ARE YOU THINKING!! The line exists at 18 and that is it. What part of don't touch the 16-year-olds, and don't give all the kids alcohol and drugs, didn't Jeschke understand? What part of that don't you understand? Give him ten years - maybe that will convince him that the law is serious .... maybe that will convince you idiot writers that the law is serious and that the problem is not with the law but you buffoons!

Enforce them all!

Global Age of Consent : 5/14/2009

I get the fact that this guy was involved in some peripheral way with the girls' tennis team. If people believe that's a "position of authority," that's all well and good. I don't think it's the same thing as being a teacher, police officer, or fanatical district attorney, though. I do think he is clearly in the wrong but not to the tune of a 10 year prison sentence and a lifetime felony sex offender label. Curious, I looked up various age of consent laws. CA has the most twisted and confusing laws in the nation; there are all sorts of silly distinctions. Nationally, CA is one of just 12 states with an age of consent as high as 18; 16 is the age of consent in nearly every state. And internationally? 16 is typical but many South American, Asian (China & S. Korea), and European jurisdictions deem 14 to be a suitable age; Spain's age of consent (and a few other countries) is 13! CA's age of consent laws are an anachronistic embarassment. We need to catch up with the rest of the world. (URL to consent laws: http://www.avert.org/age-of-consent.htm )

Loud Whispers

: 5/15/2009

So, "Loud Whispers", do you wish you lived in Spain so you could lay a 13 year old? You say the guy was "involved in some peripheral way" with the girl's team? Noooooo, he was a coach. You have lost all credibility. Thanks for alerting us to how your mind works. Now I know just to skip over any future comments you have because of who you are.

To age-of-consent fanatics : 5/15/2009

Peripheral way!! Again, someone showing a complete lack of knowledge of the case. Peter Jeschke was present, EVERY SCHOOL DAY, teaching the girls (targets in Jeschke's mind) tennis JUST LIKE A "REGULAR" TEACHER. It is pathetic how these Peter Jeschke fans post here in an attempt to facilitate his preying on teenage girls. Peter Jeschke habitually commented to both the boys and girls on the teams his sexual attraction towards teenage girls. It came out in court that he had "Barely Legal" porn in his room - this is porn which supposedly depicts nude girls, in sexual poses ,who are age one day over 18 BUT the majority of the pictures of girls, based on their sexual development (or lack thereof) are actually 14 to 16. There is NO DOUBT (as validated by a jury) that Peter Jeschke desired to have sexual interaction with teenage girls who were barely post pubescent and he was using his contacts as a coach to farm for victims. Now you age-of-consent fanatics can go ahead and try to justify Jeschke’s crimes by talking about laws in other states or countries but the plain fact is laws exist here in California which are to be obeyed regardless of what other laws exist in the world. Furthermore, this is not a Romeo and Juliet love-thing. He wanted to bed a teenage girl and he was working all the angles to manipulate one into his bed. He used drugs and alcohol (found guilty in trial) to facilitate the crimes. When you Jeschke sycophants try to justify his actions by pointing out differing age of consent laws throughout the world your support for his crimes, and willingness to be an encourager and supporter of his preying on teenage girls, is blatantly obvious! Why don’t you go ahead and admit that you desire that any man, regardless of his age or relationship to the girl, should be able to have sex with a girl of any age he wants as long as he doesn’t “force” her. Why did you stop at age 13 when pointing to laws in other countries related to age-of-consent … why didn’t you point out the countries where a man can have sex with a 9-year-old if he wants? Because your arguments would start to weaken and your obvious desire to allow Jeschke to bed any teenage girl he wants would be all-to-clear. As for 10 years in prison – people never actually receive the amount of time in prison they should get. That is the maximum possible but usually they never receive that amount of time. He was found guilty of crimes that, when calculated, add up to that potential of time in prison. Perhaps, before he preyed on girls, he should have thought of the potential time he might get before committing the crimes. How much time do you sycophants think he should get? One year, three years, five years? What is your justification for one verses five? The law justifies it by setting it forth in legal documents – it was prescribed by the authors of the laws and agreed upon by the government … many more people have decided that what Jeschke did could garner 10 years thus your myopic view of 10 years being too much leads to the conclusion that your opinion is baseless – obviously you don’t want him to get any time – perhaps when he gets out of prison you can let him teach tennis to your daughter so that, when you think he is being responsible with her he is actually feeding her drugs and alcohol and getting into her tennis shorts any time he can manipulate them off of her!

coach : 5/15/2009

uh uh uh huh....thats so cool and stuff

beavis

This country is pathetic! : 5/25/2009

SEX! A dirty word in our unenlightened society, but violence is okay. What a pathetic joke you all are. Repressed bunch of S.B. Republicans. Grow up!

French visitor

re:To age-of-consent fanatics : 5/25/2009

You wrote- "perhaps when he gets out of prison you can let him teach tennis to your daughter so that, when you think he is being responsible with her he is actually feeding her drugs and alcohol and getting into her tennis shorts any time he can manipulate them off of her!" You talk about this case as if he did this to 4 year olds. I'm not defending this guy, but stop being so dramatic about this. These girls choose to do these things. They weren't force fed these drugs, they were curious and they tried them. Sure, he was an idiot for being the one who gave them to them. But stop pretending that these girl weren't as willing as he was to be involved in the relationship. These girls were just as dumb as him. Don't you think that they wanted this as much as he did? If they had been offered drugs or hit on by an out of shape 60 year old science teacher the principal would have heard about it by the end of that same day. But they weren't hit on but a out of shape 60 year old science teacher, they were hit on by a young and relatively good looking tennis instructor. That is why things went as far as they did. Because they liked it and they were attracted to it.

Me

So another Jeschke Sycophant posts ... : 5/26/2009

What is the relevance of the fact that the girl may have desired to have the sex she had at the time it occurred? What you are doing is tacitly blaming the girl rather than the teacher. Jeschke manipulated the girl into having sex. If, right after their first interaction together before their relationship progressed into sex, we had an opportunity to interview each one of them Jeschke would have said, "Heck ya, I want to have sex with her - I'll do her now if you let me" while she would say, "have sex with him? No, he seems nice but I don't want to have sex with him!" Jeschke desired to have sex with a teenage girl and she was the one who took his manipulative bait. Part of that bait is “grooming” which is where the predator creates an environment where he can manipulate the girl to not resist his advances, even cooperate or participate. Technically, she is "consenting" or wanting it but, in reality, her decisions and actions were manipulated from the beginning by Jeschke. He started out by taking her to lunch when she was supposed to be in class. He then began to take her to his house, just to "talk" ... he didn't give a whit about her juvenile conversations about whatever, he was setting up an environment where he could manipulate her to allow him to have sex with her. HE then initiated conversations of "love" and how he wanted to marry her. He then began to give her drugs and alcohol which further affected her judgment and decision making. He never loved her, nor did he want to marry her, he wanted to bed her and he was initiating these conversations because they would manipulate her feelings, cause her to consent, and, hopefully, not disclose to anyone his actions. Eventually several girlfriends of the girl reported to authorities the sex when they found out about it from the girl. Now, if the sex was that acceptable, and we should overlook it because, as you say, she wanted it, then why did her peers identify the sex as inappropriate and wrong? Because it was wrong, inappropriate, and illegal - regardless of how he manipulated her emotions to not resist the sex, and even participate. When you try to downplay his actions and predator like manipulations, you cause me to think that you are just another Jeschke fan who is trying to make his crimes appear minor in hopes of manipulating people's opinions so as to not want to punish him. The fact that the girl didn't resist, or perhaps even actively participated in the sex, is meaningless. Some predators choose 6 year-olds - Jeschke choose 16 year-olds. When 6 year olds are molested they, typically, actively participate in the sexual conduct and may even enjoy it, does that mean that it is ok? Of course not - the only difference in this case with Jeschke is the age of the victim - his predator actions were exactly the same - you say he was just "stupid" --- no, he wasn't "stupid" he was criminal and he would have targeted your sixteen year old daughter if he had had an opportunity.

Know the Jeschke facts and know a predator

: 5/26/2009

I had an adult male give me drugs and take me to bed when I was 16 years old. I was scared, there was nothing about it I liked. I felt I had to do the "cool" thing and go along with it. Going along with what's cool is so important to impressionable teens. I'm now middle aged, and when I think of that man, I hope he burns in hell. If I could legally send him to prison, I would. He robbed me of something very precious–my innocent sexuality, my dignity, my self-respect, and my confidence. I hate him for that. That experience will live with me until the day I die, and he had no right to do that to me, then or now. The damage can't be erased. It's permanent.

Poor guy : 5/28/2009

She knew what she was doing.

To the Jeschke Fan Club members : 5/28/2009

The Jeschke fan club members who post here, trying to blame the victims, are pathetic. Evidence was presented in trial that associates of Jeschke's participated in the providing of drugs and alcohol to the youth and even knew of the illegal sex, making them criminally culpable. Law Enforcement wasn't able to locate enough evidence to arrest these Jeschke club fan members otherwise they would have stood trial with him. So, as you Jeschke club members try to manipulate blog readers opinions that it is reasonable for a 34 year old tennis coach to give drugs and alcohol to one of his 16 year old students and then manipulate her into having sex with him - BEWARE - the statute of limitations is not up yet on any participation you may have had in Jeschke's crimes and, remember, Jeschke is now facing a whole new set of charges related to his efforts to circumvent the judicial process and dissuade witnesses from testifying against him and subornation of perjury ... Go ahead and continue to try to convince people what a great guy he is by blaming the victims and calling us prudes for believing his actions were obscene, immoral, evil and criminal. I am sure there would be time to prosecute you, also, for your involvement in criminal conduct.

: 5/28/2009

Here, here!

Formerly abused teen

always two sides to a sad story : 5/29/2009

It sounds like most of the people posting on this site are forgetting that we are talking about a real person here who's life is a living hell right now. To me Peter's case is not just a horrible story about some evil unknown stranger. Peter is someone I met when I was a young girl in college. He asked me out and we went on a few dates. I realized pretty quickly that despite the good looks, outgoing personality and charismatic air that initially intriuged and attracted me, he wasn't someone I wanted to have a romantic relationship with and I ended it before it went anywhere. He was immature and an eternal flirt. Having said that, we did stay friends for years. I was so saddened when I heard what happened, though I wasn't really shocked. Peter has always acted like a guy in his 20s, he never grew up (obviously). This whole case can be argued to death on either side and peope will pass judgment on him for his actions no matter what I or anyone else says. I won't defend him. He made a horrible mistake and showed incredibly poor judgement, no respect for the rules/law, and a total lack of moral values. He crossed a line that you don't cross as a 34 year old man coaching a girls tennis team. But I agree with the others who point out that this girl had a choice and she too should have known right from wrong. She could have spoken up when the flirtation began, she could have said no to the alcohol and invitations to lunch and to his house. She acted to put herself in a very bad situation. Where were her parents during all this? I don't think my own parents would have ever allowed me to go spend time at a young male coaches house ALONE! Its not like he had a tennis court in his living room right? Why was she ever at his house? From personal experience, Peter does understand the word NO. He is not a maliscious predatory rapist who would have forced himself upon her regardless. Yes she was young and of course he influenced her, but she could have stopped this whole thing before it ever got started and unfortunately that is something she will have to live with. Just as he will have to live with his own inexcuseable actions for the rest of his life and he now will endure the real living nightmare of JAIL. I shudder to think about what he will face if incarcerated with hardcore criminals. Of course he deserves real punishment, but I hope his sentence/punishment fits the crime and he gets some help too and not just metal bars to stare at for years and years. His life as he has known it is over. This girls life is just beginning and she will go on. My heart goes out to his parents, his little brother and especially his son. I hope this whole incident teaches parents of teenage girls to pay a lot more attention to their daughters because paying attention could have prevented this before it went so far. A lot of horrible things have been said about Peter and sadly many of them are to an extent true, but he isn't a monster people. Many have done far worse. He's a guy, a person, who really messed up and is now going to pay the price.

: 5/29/2009

Sorry, but when something like that happens to a kid the first time, they don't get where it's going, an they can't imagine the psychological impact the experience is going to have. Just because the girl willingly went along with it in the beginning, the end of sexual abuse and it's impact is not what she signed up for. What teenage girl wouldn't be flattered to have the attention of a coach?

Jeschke didn't just hurt the girl - but MANY others : 5/30/2009

The girl's parents didn't know, nor would they have allowed, her to go to Jeschke's home. He was manipulating all of these contacts with her behind her parent's backs. Some of these contacts occurred when the girl was supposed to be having tennis lessons. Yes, the girl could have chosen to say no to the drugs, alcohol and sex Jeschke provided her but, realistically, a 16 year old girl, who was groomed by her 34 year old tennis coach into participating in these things, isn't going to have the ability to stand up for herself and say "no" - before blaming the girl you have to look at the totality of the circumstances and think about everything contextually. She wasn't a 34 year old woman - she was a virgin who was being introducted to alcohol, drugs and sex by her 34 year old tennis coach. Also, no one seems to be mentioning the fact that Jeschke was providing drugs and alcohol to many of the players on the boys and girls tennis teams he was in charge of. This isn't just an issue of him having sex with this one girl but a pattern and practice of doing some heinous things. Saying he was just immature isn't an excuse for the habitually horrible way he was behaving with the kids. He was a parents worst nightmare - acting like a responsible adult and then, when the parents were trusting him with their kids, he was off giving them drugs and having sex with them. It depends on what your defination of a monster is so I am unable to respond to if he is a monster or some other terrible thing but he was doing some really bad stuff. This is all made that much worse by the fact that he has been arrogantly denying everything, the sex, drugs, etc. and stating that all of these kids are liars - ALL of them, not just the girl he manipulated into bed. He has NO remorse, NO compassion for what he has done to the kids and their famailies, NO care for other people, NO concern for anyone else but himself ... he is completely VOID of any moral compas - he clearly only cares about what he can manipulate out of other people. THAT is all made EVEN WORSE by his efforts to disuade witnesses from testifying and trying to get a bunch of kids to take the stand and lie for him - all charges he will probably be facing sometime in the near future. My pure guess is that he is looking at many years in prison - all years he deserves for all he has done. No amount of blaming everyone else will justify his actions nor mitigate the fact that he should go away for a long time. I suspect it is only a LONG jail sentence that might break his arrogance and cause him to, hopefully, realize how bad he has been and how many people he has hurt.

Whats your defination of a "monster"?

A monster? : 5/31/2009

I watched something on television the other night where a man who murdered his wife was convicted of manslaughter due to a lack of evidence. He received a 5 year sentence, which means he will be out of prison in probably 3 years. That to me is a MONSTER. A guy who manipulated a 16 year old girl to have sex, he's a pervert, he has serious problems, and he is now a criminal according to our laws, but he's not a monster. Jeschke has been found guilty in a court of law, but you people continue to try him in the Court of public opinion. Get over it! He did it, he's going to jail! These kids would have gotten alcohol from somewhere or someone if they wanted it. They would have gotten drugs if they wanted it. And yes, a 16 year old girl who is not mute has the ability, difficult as it may be, to say NO. She is not an immature little child who has no idea what is going on in the world she lives in. I will raise my daughter to know the difference between right and wrong and I will raise her to say NO and to come to me when she is unsure or uncomfortable with anything. I will also be a parent who pays attention. All this is by no means this girls "fault," but she did play a part in the outcome. By the way, those other kids, the other "victims," their lives are just fine. Oh my gosh, they drank some alcohol, no other kid has ever done that, with or without the help of a tennis coach. Another thing, when people are on triaL, they usually say they are innocent and they didn't do it. It's called a defense and it's how our criminal system works. Now that he has been found guilty he will have a chance to show remorse, apologize, whatever... we will see what he does, if he owns up. I hope he does, for his own soul.

It doesn't matter ... : 6/1/2009

The issue isn't if the kids could have gotten sex and drugs from some other source so this is no big deal rather the issue is an adult coach carrying out such actions, for so long, with so many kids. Some of the posters here have been trying to lessen his culpability by saying things such as the kids could have gotten the drugs somewhere else, could have had the sex with someone else, could have said no, should be allowed to have sex with a 34-year-old, etc. Those are all attempts to absolve Jeschke of his culpability. Quit trying to downplay his tremendous responsibility by trying to throw blame on others - it doesn't matter if they could have gotten the drugs/sex somewhere else. I bet you would be singing a different tune if he had been having sex with your daughter after you had trying to teach her the right thing but he circumvented all of your teaching with his manipulation which is how it happened in this case.

The facts : 6/6/2009

Some of the facts in this case seem to be entirely overlooked by all the people rushing to judgment. This girl testified in court that she pursued Jeschke. She wanted to have a sexual relationship with him. She also testified that she threatened him when he tried to end it. She said she would tell if he didn't continue to see her. To me that is not an innocent child. 16 or not, that is a manipulative young woman who knew exactly what she was doing and what the consequences would be for then both. Yeah, he should have never allowed it in the first place, but he is not the only person who has responsibility in this. They BOTH made mistakes, they BOTH are to blame!

RE: the facts : 6/6/2009

What is your source for these supposed facts? It certainly was not reported by the Daily Sound or Independent.l

Unbelievable

Does anyone live in the real world anymore? : 6/7/2009

I don't personally know anyone in this case, but I have attended some of the trial for research purposes and I can stand behind whoever wrote "the facts" posting. Just because a newspaper doesn't say it in their story doesn't mean it isn't true. None of the testimony of any witness was printed word for word... does that mean they didn't testify? Newspapers print the stuff they want people to read, not the whole story. Do you only believe things you read in a newspaper? I believe things I hear with my own ears over anything writen in a news publication. I normally wouldn't feel sorry for a man convicted of these crimes, but I heard both sides and this guy seems like he got caught up in a very bad situation and made some even worse decisions. There is no doubt in my mind he would take it all back if he could and he has learned from his mistakes. He will continue to pay a huge price for his actions.

Jeschke's family and friends are LIARS! : 6/7/2009

The last couple of postings, purporting to be persons who attended the trial, posted absolutely FALSE INFORMATION. The victim ABSOLUTELY DID NOT threaten Jeschke to force him to continue to see her. That is an ABSOLUTE LIE!! She did not do this nor did she testify, in any manner, to this. The girl NEVER caused Jeschke to do what he did - he manipulated her. I, too, was present for every day of the trial. The majority of the persons in the gallery were reporters or JESCHKE'S FAMILY and FRIENDS. It is obvious that the LIARS who posted the last couple of blogs are Jeschke's friends and family. You people are absolutely abhorrent to lie like this - you have been trying the get Jeschke off any way you could - trying to keep him from experiencing the consequences of his actions - you make me sick! So, the next question is, how culpable are you for his efforts to intimidate the witnesses and suborn perjury? Your facilitating of your son/friend must stop – you are going to end up forcing the authorities to arrest you! You can blame yourselves for some of the years he will be spending in prison because of your failure to hold him accountable for his actions and encourage him to accept responsibility for what he did!

Mixed Messages : 6/9/2009

We sexualize children at a young age and are then surprised if they are sexual. We turn a blind eye to teenage girls wearing very provocative clothing and shaking their booty but admonish men if they are titillated. It is not uncommon in this community to find parents of teenagers who condone alcohol use, despite the law, by turning a blind eye (kids will be kids) or actively providing their homes as venues for underage people to drink so they can control whether kids drive home. Clearly we have a man here who failed to grow up and, unforgivably, crossed some lines. That part is truly black and white. But this might be an opportunity to take a look at a broader issue in our society that might lead some people to think that, certain things, like providing alcohol to teenagers, are OK. As a woman who got high with and had sex at 14 with a 28-year-old man, I can say that I found it extremely intoxicating to have the attention of that man and I went to great lengths to facilitate it to happen and he got away with it. Of course, at that age, I didn't have the emotional maturity, before the fact, to know that it wasn't good for me and truly, it wasn't. It didn't make me feel good about myself and, ultimately, it didn't really give me the attention that I craved and deserved from people who truly had my well-being at heart. I also thought it was all my fault and I felt terribly guilty. It never occurred to me at the time how wrong what he did was but I knew it didn't feel right and I never allowed that situation to arise again. Over the years, I have thought of that man and prayed that his actions weren't some sort of a lifetime pattern that brought harm to young girls. And I think how sad it is that I was preyed on by this person who was a friend of our family. Now a parent of a teenage daughter, I know I can't control every minute of her life. If a teen is truly determined to make poor choices, they will find opportunity. I do know, however, that I am vigilant and I do not provide venue for my kids to engage in activities they truly are not mature enough to handle, I encourage open communication, stay engage, and try to teach my daughter to dress appropriately and move like a lady. I also go to great lengths to ensure my children's friends have parents with like values. Beyond that, I can only hope my efforts will be successful. It would be so much easier if we could all, somehow, get on a page that allows our children to remain children for as long as possible so they can face adult issues with as mature a brain as possible. At the very least, it would be nice if we could agree to follow the law, even if we don't agree with it, so we don't send such mixed messages to our children.

Taking a good look at ourselves

: 6/11/2009

I like "Mixed Messages" response.

Well said : 6/23/2009

Mixed Messages response put into intelligent words what many of the previous posts have also said. As a society and as parents we need to take this opportunity to prevent things like this from continuing to happen rather than screaming back and forth about something that already happened. We need to learn from the mistakes that have been made and work as a collective whole to create a society that does not tolerate the behaviors that led to this situation. Also, Jeschke's friends and family are allowed to also be hurt over this, just as much as the girl and her family and friends. They are allowed to try to stand up for him just as much as people have stood up for this girl. It's called living in a free country. Just becasue he did something wrong doesn't mean he is undeserving of his family and friends love. No one is beyond that. For those of you who want so much to condemn him and scream at those who try to stand up for him calling them LIARS... get a life and move on! He is going to pay the price for his actions, end of story. No one is facilitating him. He is in jail. He is going to be sentenced. He is going to have to accept responsibility no matter what anyone out here says. He will be in jail serving his sentence. You are not a law official so you sound rediculous threatening jail to those who make postings in support of Jeschke. And by the way, how dare you accuse his parents of having anything to do with any of these posts.

Use your head : 6/23/2009

His parents are welcome to support him - that is what parents do and should do. It is the nature of the support that is a problem. Supporting him doesn't mean that they should support his denial that he committed the crimes (which he continues to maintain even after conviction). Also, Jeschke lived with his family ... don't tell me that they didn't know about his drug use and association with young people in innappropriate situtaions. There was testimony that he was giving young people drugs at his home which he shared with his parents. There was testimony that his adult brother was present for these associations. How dare YOU castigate ME for calling his parents and family down - particularly when they LIE in postings here. Their behaviors have also been abhorrent. They should have loved and supported him to tell the truth and accept responsibility for his actions not attempt to facilitate him to get away with the crimes. Furthermore, he is facing more charges for attempting to dissuade and intimidate witnesses. Don't tell me that the friends and family, with whom he was living and being supported finincially, had no idea about all he has been doing. I don't live in the dream world that you do - I apply logic to this situation.

-- : 9/9/2009

I don't know the level of this girl's innocence.But one thing is for sure..he had a position of authority and had no place to cross any such grounds...I grew up as a tennis player and was sexually abused by my coach for years..and can tell you the maturity of a 16 year old doesn't compare at all to an adult..he is wholly responsible because he is the adult. Whoever mentonied the laws in these other countries...are they aware how much human trafficking of young girls goes on in those countries...a 14 year old being able to consent is rididculuos..there often not even developed enough for sex..they are children whose bodies are changing...if you want those kind of laws here are you also prepared for the rise of human trafficking...stupid laws are always made for a reason....so somebody with authority can either fulfill their lust or their pocket book

lets be reasonable